Let Them. Let Me. A Reflection Worksheet for When You Feel Left Out
- Lisa Woolery
- Aug 25
- 2 min read
Updated: Aug 29
Printable worksheet:
💗 Part 1: Acknowledge the Shift 💗
Circle or highlight what’s true for you right now:
• I miss the people I used to see all the time.
• I pulled away, but I wish they had reached back.
• I said no to protect myself.
• They stopped asking.
• The relationship changed—and so did I.
• I feel guilty for letting go.
• I still love them, but we’ve grown apart.
• I feel better with people who understand this season.
💗 Part 2: Who Did I Lose When I Lost Him? 💗
Take a moment to list or name the people, places, and circles that felt like they faded after your loss.
• I lost the rhythm of...
• I lost connection with...
• I lost comfort in...
(Reminder: It’s okay to grieve this too. These are secondary losses, and they matter.)
💗 Part 3: Let Them… 💗
List some things or people you may be ready to release—not with bitterness, but with peace.
• Let them
• Let them
• Let them
💗 Part 4: Let Me… 💗
Now write some “Let Me” statements. These are your permissions. Bold ones. Healing ones.
• Let me
• Let me
• Let me
💗 Redirection, Not Rejection 💗
When Eric was alive, most of my friendships were couple-based. Even my girlfriends had lives that looked a lot like mine—married, busy, juggling family stuff. I still care deeply about those friends, and I see them from time to time… but if I’m being honest?
I got tired of hearing them complain about their husbands. I got tired of married problems. One friend even said she was jealous of me because I “got to start over with money.” We didn’t speak for a couple of months after that.
Over the last six years, I’ve done a lot searching for belonging. I’ve tried hiking clubs, singles mixers, pickleball—you name it. And one day, after a great game of pickleball, a new friend and I had an idea for a book club. We call it the Loquacious Literary Ladies—aka the Fab 5.
It’s a group of single women, and we just get each other. We’ve done book clubs, spontaneous brunches, and all kinds of one-off events. I even ran a 5k with one.
We talk about dating without anyone rolling their eyes. We talk about the hard and hilarious parts of rebuilding. And you know what?
The evolution of friends is not rejection.
It’s redirection.And it’s allowed me to expand my circle instead of shrink my heart.
Maybe it is time to expand your friend group? Start with a widows club or a club with single women. Get on Google or Meetup and go for it!
Love you widow friends!
This healing worksheet was made for you, my widow friend by:
Lisa Woolery
The Widow’s Comeback
Facebook: @TheWidowsComeback
Check out my books for widows on Amazon:
The Widow’s Comeback memoir and
365 Day Grief Calendar and Workbook
This worksheet is based on Mel Robbins “Let Them Theory.” I listened to her book. It is wonderful and a lot can apply to widows and a lot can apply to your overall mental health.
Check it out: audiobook. You won’t be sorry!
